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The Black friend : on being a better white person
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Presents race-related anecdotes from the author's past, weaving in his thoughts on why they were hurtful and how he might handle things differently now, in hopes of bringing more race awareness to Americans. - (Baker & Taylor)

Writing from the perspective of a friend, Frederick Joseph offers candid reflections on his own experiences with racism and conversations with prominent artists and activists about theirs&;creating an essential read for white people who are committed anti-racists and those newly come to the cause of racial justice.

&;We don&;t see color.&; &;I didn&;t know Black people liked Star Wars!&; &;What hood are you from?&; For Frederick Joseph, life as a transfer student in a largely white high school was full of wince-worthy moments that he often simply let go. As he grew older, however, he saw these as missed opportunities not only to stand up for himself, but to spread awareness to those white people who didn&;t see the negative impact they were having.

Speaking directly to the reader, The Black Friend calls up race-related anecdotes from the author&;s past, weaving in his thoughts on why they were hurtful and how he might handle things differently now. Each chapter features the voice of at least one artist or activist, including Angie Thomas, author of The Hate U Give; April Reign, creator of #OscarsSoWhite; Jemele Hill, sports journalist and podcast host; and eleven others. Touching on everything from cultural appropriation to power dynamics, &;reverse racism&; to white privilege, microaggressions to the tragic results of overt racism, this book serves as conversation starter, tool kit, and invaluable window into the life of a former &;token Black kid&; who now presents himself as the friend many readers need. Backmatter includes an encyclopedia of racism, providing details on relevant historical events, terminology, and more. - (Random House, Inc.)

Author Biography

Frederick Joseph is an award-winning marketing professional, media representation advocate, and writer who was recently selected for the Forbes 30 Under 30 list. He&;s also the winner of the 2018 Bob Clampett Humanitarian Award, given by Comic-Con International: San Diego, and was selected for the 2018 Root 100 List of Most Influential African Americans. He lives in New York City. - (Random House, Inc.)

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Booklist Reviews

*Starred Review* Typically, books on being an antiracist methodically walk readers through systemic racism and its related terminology, but Joseph takes a more personal, and perhaps more effective, approach, sharing stories from his time in school and college to provide cultural history and opportunities for reflection. In the process, the Black author offers context when explaining white privilege, cultural appropriation, power dynamics, and other important issues. For instance, as he describes hanging out at a white classmate's house and being asked about basketball and fried chicken, readers begin to see the subtle—and not-so-subtle—ways that white people sustain racism. He then uses these experiences to point out in a frank manner what white people can—or in most cases, what they should NOT—do to avoid racism. His stories also include individuals from other races, ethnicities, and religions, extending his message to end racism against all people of color. To reinforce many of his points, Joseph includes interviews with writers, activists, and other influencers from multiple intersections. Finally, he calls on white people to become active accomplices, rather than passive allies, in the fight. Readers can find more explanations of terms and movements in the concluding "Encyclopedia of Racism," as well as a "The Black Friend Playlist" and People and Things to Know roster. A hard-hitting resource for action and change. Grades 7-12. Copyright 2020 Booklist Reviews.

School Library Journal Reviews

Gr 7 Up—Joseph contextualizes the legacy of racism and white supremacy through the lens of personal experience. Using humor and a conversational tone, he shares memories from his childhood to demonstrate encounters that were annoying, hateful, and even traumatic. Each story highlights how the words or actions of a white person left a lasting impact. There were kids who thought Joseph only liked rap music, a teacher who believed the only way he could get a high grade was by cheating, and police officers who were quick to assume he was the perpetrator. Interviews with influential Black personalities, who describe their thoughts on what white people should understand about Black people and Black culture, are featured throughout. There is a lot to love about this book, but its greatest strength is its ability to provide readers with the knowledge to recognize and understand the many faces of racism. Joseph delves into topics such as microaggressions, stereotypes, cultural appropriation, and affirmative action. He clearly and decisively breaks down the misconceptions surrounding each. The tone occasionally seeps into disappointed teacher territory and is unlikely to win over new allies but, as the introduction states, this text is for young white people who want to be better. Back matter includes "An Encyclopedia of Racism," a playlist, and recommended reading. VERDICT A helpful, commanding guide for white Americans who are ready to learn how to dismantle the system of racism, specifically anti-Blackness, and how they can change. Recommended for all libraries.—Cathy DeCampli, Haddonfield P.L., NJ

Copyright 2020 School Library Journal.

Table of Contents

Preface xi
Introduction 1(16)
1 We Want You to See Race
2 We Can Enjoy Ed Sheeran, BTS, and Cardi B
3 Certain Things Are Racist, Even If You Don't Know It
4 You Could at Least Try to Pronounce My Name Correctly
5 This Isn't a Fad; This Is My Culture
6 So Your Friend Is Racist. What Should You Do?
7 No, You Can't. No, You Shouldn't. And Don't Ask That
8 No, I Didn't Get Here by Affirmative Action (and If I Did, So What?)
9 Let's Not Do Oppression Olympics
10 We Don't Care What Your Black, Brown, or Asian Friend Said Was Okay (F.U.B.U.)?
In the End: We Don't Need Allies; We Need Accomplices
An Encyclopedia of Racism
People and Things to Know
The Black Friend Playlist
Source Notes 245(3)
Acknowledgments 248(2)
Index 250

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